The other day I was complaining to MRod about this, and its still bugging me. Having signed up for what seems like every social networking and matchmaking website there is, I’ve successfully received winks, pokes, messages, etc. from all kinds of men. Perhaps it is because I’ve taken the time to create a profile that adequately represents my charming personality. I’ve picked out flattering photographs that are sufficiently recent. You’re welcome, fellas.
What I find creepy are the men who remain anonymous (no photo, private profile, “if you want to know about me, just ask” lines in their ‘about me’ sections, etc.) and are a) viewing my profile b) sending me messages, and following up with a self-important tone when they don’t hear back from me. To me, this is a bit peeping-tom’ish, and lately I’ve been sympathetic to the whole hijab lifestyle. But I can’t fault men for looking at my very public profile. I mean, thats like me getting pissed off at men for checking out my chest when I’m wearing something low cut. But I do think its unfair that you can go looking at all my pictures, send me a message, and then feel like its appropriate to question why I haven’t responded to you! Perhaps it is too extreme to say that it is an extension of the objectification of women in our society. But it is another form of male idiocy. I’d rather you and your buddies just ogle me from the other side of the bar, thanks.
Ugh, I miss my ex. What would Bear say…
ME TOO!
Not to give them the benefit of the doubt, but I think a lot of these peepers just don’t have any self esteem that’s why they choose not to post their picture, info., etc.
Hmm. These anonymous online trollers probably know what they’re doing. That is, they’ve honed their methodology to reap maximum gain from time spent contacting girls. The “self-important” follow up message works for them.
Which is just an extreme example on the way we all appropriate, consciously or not, commercial marketing techniques in forming our ‘online brand’. We’ve learned too well from the advertisers and spammers who bombard incessantly.
But Tsar, to have an online brand, one must actually have a product to advertise! Are these anonymous online trollers really successful? I’m aghast. If so, what does that say about us women? Are we in such a drought we’ll even drink water from an unknown source?